Our top 5 tips to help you through a relationship breakdown

Posted on 27 June 2011
  1. Be practical: when negotiating with your ex, try to think of matters from a practical perspective both in what you want and when considering what your ex is saying they want. We understand that these disputes can be difficult and always emotional however, the best agreements provide for practical solutions to the issues which are easy to implement and maintain. Being practical can also reduce your legal costs and most importantly reduce the time it takes to reach an agreement and therefore, your stress.
  2. Confirm things in writing: This avoids any arguments about what was said and done and by whom. If you confirm any of your important conversations or actions in writing, if needed, it can assist in proving what happened. Confirming matters in writing should consist of a letter to your ex setting out the facts in as much detail as possible. Use direct quotes to describe conversations, for example ‘You said “…...”, I said “...…”’
  3. Compromise: the best way to resolve family law disputes is to be open to suggestions and compromise so that neither of you are forced to go through the time, effort, financial and emotional cost of court. Try to be flexible and understanding, though it is difficult, try to look at things from an objective and practical perspective rather than an emotional one.
  4. Bring a witness: if you think that meetings or other contact with your ex may result in an argument or disagreement, bring a witness along who can provide evidence as to what happened. If something does go wrong it is a good idea for both you and your witness to write out a statement as soon as possible. It is also important that the witness you choose is a person that will be able to not become involved in the negotiations – remember witnesses are there to only listen and record information.
  5. Get professional advice and/or assistance: whether you consult with a counsellor to try to guide you through this emotional and difficult time, with legal representatives to help you through the legal processes of separation or divorce or with an accountant to advise and assist you with any relevant taxation implications, it is important to get ongoing professional advice and assistance and to get it early so as to obtain the greatest value from that service. 

If you require any assistance or advice with your family law matter, please don’t hesitate to contact us.

Check back for our coming post on family violence.